Sex can be painful for many reasons. Occasionally men suffer from painful sex but painful sex is more common with women. For women, sometimes it can be something basic like needing a quality lubricant, feeling safe/comfortable and relaxed, or getting the...
People lie about sex for many reasons. People lie about sex to have more sex, to have less sex, to avoid embarrassment, to avoid conflict, to avoid hurting others' feelings, to maintain privacy or to maintain appropriate and healthy personal boundaries. When it comes...
In couples counseling I often see lovers who struggle with the desire and energy to have spontaneous sex because of stress and fatigue from life's day to day obligations. Or sometimes it's just getting on the same page. When one partner is in the mood for sex and...
I want to take a moment and offer help for partners of sex addicts. Whether it's porn addiction, infidelity, or obsessive sex related behaviors, being in a relationship with a sex addict or someone who repeatedly lies about their sexual behaviors can be paralyzing and...
When sex with our partner gets predictable, boring, or unsatisfying, we lose interest in having sex – it's low sexual desire 101. If you don't get your sexual needs met with your partner or when sex is focused more on efficiency than pleasure and connection, you...
At the top of the list of most worthy resolutions: improve your sex life this year. In order to do that you need to FOCUS on what you WANT sexually. Because whatever you focus on gets bigger.... If you focus on pleasure, what turns you on, what you consider sexy, you...
Want to improve your marriage or intimate relationship when the sex isn't great? Go to a sex therapist - someone trained in fixing relationships in sex therapy. For couples counseling, therapists without training in sex therapy or sexuality don't always have the...
Sexual trauma comes in all shapes and sizes - but let's talk about why talking about sexual trauma heals. Sometimes it looks like rape or sexual abuse. Sometimes it looks like infidelity, a sexual affair, or an emotional affair. Whatever it looks like, many of the...
Unfortunately, shame and sexual abuse go together. Shame goes to the core and can result in feelings of being broken or less than. I rarely see a client who has been sexually abused or raped who doesn’t feel some sense of personal shame for what happened. Whether they...
Are you a good listener? Do you think you communicate effectively? What would your partner say about your communication skills? How about when you are angry, sad, frustrated, or hurt?... Are you able to calm your emotions enough to LISTEN to the actual message and...