When Lube Is NOT Enough…Navigating Sexual Pain!
The Not-So-Sexy Side of Sex! When you're trying to navigate sexual pain, lube is NOT the solution. Today, we're diving headfirst into the bedroom's Bermuda Triangle: sexual and pelvic pain. If you've ever embarked on a steamy night only to end up feeling like you're...
It Makes Sense to Not Desire Bad Sex
You lack desire for sex. And you wonder why. My first question is, “How is it? The sex… Is it good? If your answer is no, the sex isn’t good, then why the hell would you have desire for bad sex? It makes good sense to not desire bad sex. If I were a...
Weather, Self Care, and Sexual Desire…
It’s been a long Winter and the sun hasn’t been shining like we’re used to here in Long Beach California and damn is it a mood killer! Not only a mood killer, but a mojo killer! I know you may have been wondering “Where’s my Talk Sex With Liz updates?!” I hope...
New Year’s Resolution – More SEX in 2023
To be honest, I really hate New Year's Resolutions. I do love the idea of starting the new year with fresh ideas. However, I’m a believer in lifelong learning and growth rather than a once a year sort of thing. Mostly I find that people haphazardly have an idea of...
Why Fighting About Sex Never Works!
If you and your partner, lover, girlfriend, boyfriend, spouse, etc. aren’t on the same page regarding sex or physical intimacy and you’re wondering what to do, keep reading. This is one of the most common questions I get in my office as a Sex and Relationship...
How Beauty Standards are Cramping Our Style in the Bedroom
In a world where beauty standards are as stable as a Jenga tower in a toddler's playroom, it's not just our self-esteem taking a hit - but our sex lives are on the line too. Yes, you read that right. I want to dive into how socially constructed views of beauty and...
What does playfulness have to do with good or satisfying sex?
If you were too busy or caught up in adulting to get dressed up and playful this Halloween and this has become a pattern for you this could be affecting your ability to have a satisfying sex life. Are you wondering what the heck does Halloween have to do with good and...
5 Reasons You Aren’t Having Sex…
Initially this blog was titled “5 Reasons MEN Aren’t Having Sex” because it’s about why females often decline their partner’s sexual desires/advances/requests. Men often have greater sexual desire (duh) than women in long-term relationships. In most cases what I see...
So you think you’re asexual?
A surprising number of clients come to me questioning whether or not they are asexual. In most cases it’s not asexuality. It’s low desire or a partner who isn’t happy with the desire discrepancy between them. So you think you're asexual? The asexual self diagnoser is...
Be Satisfied This Valentine’s Day…Again & Again
Here's a Valentine's Day article I wrote for Theravive. It still rings true for many of my sex therapy clients longing to be satisfied this valentine's day...again & again. It's about how to get the Valentine's Day you want. I want people to stop basing their...