Because waiting for sex to “just happen” is a pretty shitty plan. I hear this all the time in my sex therapy office: “We don't want to schedule sex. It feels so… unromantic.” Really? You schedule dinner reservations. Vacations. Hair appointments. Pickleball. Meetings....
Five ways to put yourself, your relationship, and your sex life back on the damn calendar. The backpacks are packed, lunches are made and kids are back in school. And somewhere, a parent is sitting in their quiet house, sipping coffee, thinking, Holy shit. I can hear...
Something weird is happening in my inbox. And considering I've been talking professionally about sex for 20 years, my threshold for "weird" is pretty damn high. I'm a Certified Sex Therapist. People contact me about erections, orgasms, porn, fantasies, painful sex,...
People have a tendency to blame random shit for killing their sex lives. The TV.kids.dog.full moon.Mercury in retrograde. Meanwhile, they're glued to their phones, haven't had a meaningful conversation in three weeks, and wonder why sex feels about as exciting as...
Survival Guide to Premature Ejaculation Let’s normalize something right out of the gate: Premature ejaculation (PE) is incredibly common. Like… way more common than people think. In fact, it’s estimated that up to 1 in 3 men experience it at some point. (Mayo Clinic)...
Sometimes sex feels more scary or stressful than exciting.Sometimes it feels terrifying. Not horror-movie terrifying. More like: “Please don’t touch me there.” “I suddenly want to disappear into the mattress.” “Why did my body just shut down?” “I love my partner, so...
Critiquing your body during sex is a sure fire way to shut down desire and arousal. Yes - you’d be hornier if you weren’t critiquing your body so negatively. Let’s just say it: it’s really hard to feel like a sex goddess when you’re mentally zooming in on your stomach...
If your sex life needs some new foreplay ideas, music is a no-brainer. Who doesn’t feel sexier when listening to some Prince, Rihanna, Marvin Gaye, or whoever reminds your hips they can move? Music creates a mindset while also setting the atmosphere. At the same time,...
Let’s start with a fantasy about coming out a lot of people secretly have: 👉 “Once I come out, everything will finally click.” 👉 “I can be myself around everyone that matters.”👉 “I’ll feel free, confident, and sex will be great.” Don’t get me...
Wanting an open relationship doesn’t make you broken. It doesn't make you selfish.It doesn’t make you “bad at commitment.” But… It also doesn’t automatically make you evolved, emotionally mature, or ready. (Sorry. Someone had to say it.) Because a lot of people...