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What to do when couples therapy isn’t working
So, you finally took the plunge and started couples therapy. 🎉You walked in hopeful—ready to reconnect, reignite, and maybe even get laid again. But weeks (or months) later, you’re wondering… “Why isn’t this working? Are we just paying someone to watch us...
Healing (and Maybe Rebuilding) After Infidelity: Hope, Hurt, and Hot Mess Recovery
Infidelity. The word alone can make your stomach drop, your heart pound, and your brain spin with “why,” “how,” and “what now.” It’s one of the most painful breaches a couple can experience — and yet, as both Dr. Janis Abrahms Spring (author of After the Affair) and...
Is Your Bedroom Ruining Your Sex Life?
Consider this as you ask yourself if your bedroom is ruining your sex life: You crawl into bed after a romantic date… Ok let’s get real, a nice dinner with your partner. You’re ready for some sexytime with your partner and instead of being greeted by soft sheets and...
So… What Actually Happens in Sex Therapy? (Spoiler: No, I’m Not Watching You Do It)
Let’s talk about sex therapy. Just saying the words out loud makes some people squirm, doesn’t it? Tell someone you’re seeing a sex therapist, and you’ll either get a raised eyebrow, an intrigued lean-in, or that “ohhh…” face people make when they’re trying to act...
What’s in Your Spank Bank?
Let’s talk about your spank bank. Yes, you heard that right. Not your checking, not your savings, not your crypto wallet. We’re talking about the intimate, deeply personal, highly subjective mental treasure chest of sexual fantasies. Most of us dip into them when...
Internalized Homophobia and Sex, Intimacy, & Relationships
Let’s talk about how internalized homophobia can affect sex and intimacy in queer relationships. AKA the party crasher of intimacy, the ghost in the bed, the uninvited voice whispering, “You don’t really belong here, do you?” Even when we’re out, proud, and...
Sex & Intimacy Through Perimenopause, Menopause & Beyond
It’s time to dispel these myths that sex ends at menopause. I'm providing you with some tips and tools for navigating sex and intimacy through the stages of menopause. According to the research, sex is best @50 (Magnificent Sex: Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers by...
My Unsexy Confession
This week I’ve been caught up in feeling that I’m not good enough. Actually, I’d felt that way most of 2025 until today – happy fucking new year! Yes, I know, a little dramatic… the unsexy honest truth is these feelings come and go for me just like everyone else. Keep reading and I’ll share […]
Surviving Thanksgiving Stress
Surviving Thanksgiving stress isn't easy. Thanksgiving is the magical time of year when your family gathers to express gratitude, overeat, and – let’s be real – stress each other out. Whether it’s Uncle Joe’s loud political rants, blended family conflicts, or the...
Parenting Can Be Sooo Unsexy!
Let’s face it: parenting can be sooo unsexy and it’s often the fastest way to annihilate your sex life. Remember when date night involved sexy concerts, beach sunsets, candlelit dinners, and sultry glances across the table? Now it’s a ten-minute session of Netflix...