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If Your Libido Feels Off, Read This
If your libido has been acting different lately… lower, inconsistent, playing hard to get like it suddenly developed standards… you are not alone. And no — it does not automatically mean: Being broken Not loving your partner Your relationship failing Being “too old”...
What It Really Means to Be Sexually Empowered (And How to Actually Get There)
Let’s be honest: sexual empowerment gets tossed around like the idea of “work-life balance”—we love the concept, we repost inspirational memes, but deep down we’re still trying to figure out what the hell it actually means in practice. Does it mean having all the...
What to do when couples therapy isn’t working
So, you finally took the plunge and started couples therapy. 🎉You walked in hopeful—ready to reconnect, reignite, and maybe even get laid again. But weeks (or months) later, you’re wondering… “Why isn’t this working? Are we just paying someone to watch us...
Sexual Satisfaction at Any Age
While aging brings wisdom and laughter lines, it also brings with it an increasingly complex relationship sex. As we age, the dynamics of intimacy evolve, sometimes in surprising, hilarious, and enlightening ways. When it comes to sex and aging, many people have...
It Makes Sense to Not Desire Bad Sex
You lack desire for sex. And you wonder why. My first question is, “How is it? The sex… Is it good? If your answer is no, the sex isn’t good, then why the hell would you have desire for bad sex? It makes good sense to not desire bad sex. If I were a...
Be Satisfied This Valentine’s Day…Again & Again
Here's a Valentine's Day article I wrote for Theravive. It still rings true for many of my sex therapy clients longing to be satisfied this valentine's day...again & again. It's about how to get the Valentine's Day you want. I want people to stop basing their...
Erection Obsession
One of my clients coined this phrase “Erection Obsession” regarding his on-going erectile dysfunction. I had to share it because I know many men AND women silently relate to this. Whether you or your partner’s penis is too hard, too soft, lasts too long, or doesn’t...
A Resolution for 2026: Stop Sabotaging Your Sex Life
Stop Sabotaging Your Sex Life
Healing (and Maybe Rebuilding) After Infidelity: Hope, Hurt, and Hot Mess Recovery
Infidelity. The word alone can make your stomach drop, your heart pound, and your brain spin with “why,” “how,” and “what now.” It’s one of the most painful breaches a couple can experience — and yet, as both Dr. Janis Abrahms Spring (author of After the Affair) and...
Is Your Bedroom Ruining Your Sex Life?
Consider this as you ask yourself if your bedroom is ruining your sex life: You crawl into bed after a romantic date… Ok let’s get real, a nice dinner with your partner. You’re ready for some sexytime with your partner and instead of being greeted by soft sheets and...
So… What Actually Happens in Sex Therapy? (Spoiler: No, I’m Not Watching You Do It)
Let’s talk about sex therapy. Just saying the words out loud makes some people squirm, doesn’t it? Tell someone you’re seeing a sex therapist, and you’ll either get a raised eyebrow, an intrigued lean-in, or that “ohhh…” face people make when they’re trying to act...
What’s in Your Spank Bank?
Let’s talk about your spank bank. Yes, you heard that right. Not your checking, not your savings, not your crypto wallet. We’re talking about the intimate, deeply personal, highly subjective mental treasure chest of sexual fantasies. Most of us dip into them when...
Internalized Homophobia and Sex, Intimacy, & Relationships
Let’s talk about how internalized homophobia can affect sex and intimacy in queer relationships. AKA the party crasher of intimacy, the ghost in the bed, the uninvited voice whispering, “You don’t really belong here, do you?” Even when we’re out, proud, and...
Sex & Intimacy Through Perimenopause, Menopause & Beyond
It’s time to dispel these myths that sex ends at menopause. I'm providing you with some tips and tools for navigating sex and intimacy through the stages of menopause. According to the research, sex is best @50 (Magnificent Sex: Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers by...