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Can’t Get in the Mood? Sexual Desire is Complicated.
Yes sexual desire is complicated. Are you saying to yourself, “I love my partner, I want to be sexual with my partner, I SHOULD be sexual with my partner but I just can't get in the mood”? Are you lacking the motivation or desire to make the effort to initiate sex,...
Are you running on emotional empty?
Are you running on emotional empty? While I don’t like to minimize the work I do, sometimes therapy or counseling is pretty basic. Sometimes basic questions like “What are you doing to take care of yourself?” or “What fills up your emotional tank?” are all that are...
Could porn cause erectile dysfunction or intimacy problems?
Could porn cause erectile dysfunction or intimacy problems? With all the media coverage of porn addiction, you may be saying, "porn, what’s the big deal?" but if you or your partner has erectile dysfunction (difficulty getting or maintaining erections) or delayed...
True Love or Co-dependency?
Is it true love or co-dependency? One of my many insightful clients brought up recently that the book “The Giving Tree” http://www.shelsilverstein.com/books/book-title-giving-tree/ seems more about a person’s co-dependency with a partner who takes, is selfish, and...
Great Sex is NOT Like Baseball
A friend told me about this great talk on TED today by Al Vernacchio. It's about how it's better to look at sex like pizza than baseball. To check it out, click here: "Sex Needs a New Metaphor" Great sex is NOT like baseball. I love this concept. He talks about how...
Risks, Desires, & Long Term Relationships
I attended an Infidelity conference this weekend and between the conference and this article “Finding the Courage to Reveal a Fetish” I couldn’t help from wondering…. What are lovers holding back from their sexual partners and to what extent does this lead to...
Erection Obsession
One of my clients coined this phrase “Erection Obsession” regarding his on-going erectile dysfunction. I had to share it because I know many men AND women silently relate to this. Whether you or your partner’s penis is too hard, too soft, lasts too long, or doesn’t...
Orgasm: just the period at the end of a sentence?
Someone shared this quote with me a while back when I was up to my usual antics – talking about sex. “An orgasm is just the period at the end of a sentence.” Sorry – I don’t know who the quote is from but if I remember correctly it was a porn star. Interesting. My...