If your libido has been acting different lately… lower, inconsistent, playing hard to get like it suddenly developed standards… you are not alone. And no — it does not automatically mean: Being broken Not loving your partner Your relationship failing Being “too old”...
Stop Sabotaging Your Sex Life
Let’s talk about your spank bank. Yes, you heard that right. Not your checking, not your savings, not your crypto wallet. We’re talking about the intimate, deeply personal, highly subjective mental treasure chest of sexual fantasies. Most of us dip into them when...
Let’s talk about how internalized homophobia can affect sex and intimacy in queer relationships. AKA the party crasher of intimacy, the ghost in the bed, the uninvited voice whispering, “You don’t really belong here, do you?” Even when we’re out, proud, and...
It’s time to dispel these myths that sex ends at menopause. I'm providing you with some tips and tools for navigating sex and intimacy through the stages of menopause. According to the research, sex is best @50 (Magnificent Sex: Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers by...
This week I’ve been caught up in feeling that I’m not good enough. Actually, I’d felt that way most of 2025 until today – happy fucking new year! Yes, I know, a little dramatic… the unsexy honest truth is these feelings come and go for me just like everyone else. Keep reading and I’ll share […]
While aging brings wisdom and laughter lines, it also brings with it an increasingly complex relationship sex. As we age, the dynamics of intimacy evolve, sometimes in surprising, hilarious, and enlightening ways. When it comes to sex and aging, many people have...
People lie about sex for many reasons. People lie about sex to have more sex, to have less sex, to avoid embarrassment, to avoid conflict, to avoid hurting others' feelings, to maintain privacy or to maintain appropriate and healthy personal boundaries. When it comes...
In couples counseling I often see lovers who struggle with the desire and energy to have spontaneous sex because of stress and fatigue from life's day to day obligations. Or sometimes it's just getting on the same page. When one partner is in the mood for sex and...